| Give a gift that keeps on giving -
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| | home environment.
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| self-esteem which is the collection of
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| | Self esteem is not about bragging that
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| feelings or beliefs that we have about
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| | you are the greatest or that you are
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| ourselves. How we define ourselves
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| | perfect. Nobody is perfect but having
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| influences our motivations, attitudes,
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| | healthy self esteem will result in you or
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| and behaviors and affects our emotional
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| | your child knowing that you or he or she
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| well being. Self-confidence, great
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| | is worthy of being loved and accepted.
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| relationships, and a good shot at success
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| | Self esteem creates a belief in one's
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| in whatever you attempt is the prize for
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| | self and courage to try new things and
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| self esteem. Now is the time to think
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| | the ability to make better choices about
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| about your overall self appraisal of your
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| | your mind and body rather than go along
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| own self worth, self-confidence and self
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| | with crowd doing dumb or dangerous
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| respect and how this influences your
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| | activities. You'll respect yourself even
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| children and others around you and what
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| | when you make mistakes because you will
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| you can do about it this Christmas
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| | have a healthy and realistic view of your
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| season.
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| | abilities and a situation. Because you
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| Having healthy self esteem will produce:
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| | respect yourself, others usually will
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| - Armor against life's challenges
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| | too.
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| - Feeling good about yourself
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| | Tips for gifting yourself self esteem!
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| - Find it easier to handle conflicts and
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| | You can help develop your self esteem,
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| negative pressures
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| | love and acceptance of yourself by
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| - More realistic approach to life - will
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| | focusing on the good things you do and
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| look for solutions and have the ability
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| | all your great qualities. Here are a few
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| to move forward rather than get stuck
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| | suggestions that you can try to increase
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| - Generally optimistic and will enjoy
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| | your self-esteem:
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| life more
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| | • Choose your friends well. Choose to
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| Low self esteem produces:
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| | spend more time with people who help you
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| - Challenges becoming sources of major
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| | feel good about yourself. Be in
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| anxiety and frustration
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| | relationships that bring you up not drag
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| - Harder to find solutions to problems
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| | you down.
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| - Produce critical thoughts such as 'I'm
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| | • Make a list of things you're good at.
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| not good enough', 'I'm not loveable', 'I
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| | It can be anything from cooking, sports,
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| always do things wrong', 'nobody cares
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| | drawing, writing, singing or telling a
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| about me'
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| | good joke. Now add a few things to your
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| - Will belittle oneself for weaknesses
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| | list that you would like to be good at.
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| rather than accept them eg. will say 'I'm
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| | Now make a plan as to how you could work
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| an idiot' rather than say 'I don't
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| | on developing skills you will need to be
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| understand'
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| | good at what's on your list.
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| - produce a passive, withdrawn or
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| | • Give yourself a compliment a day.
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| depressed state
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| | Find something you did during the day
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| - distorted perceptions of life - can see
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| | that was good. For example 'I was a good
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| temporary setbacks as intolerable and
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| | listener today' or 'I was a good friend
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| permanent
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| | to Johnny today' or 'I made a good effort
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| - a sense of pessimism predominates
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| | to complete my work today'
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| Give the gift of fostering healthy self
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| | • Keep a journal of good things said
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| esteem in your child!
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| | about you. Studies have shown that
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| Know that low self-esteem begins in
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| | people with low self esteem tend to
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| childhood and is the result of the
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| | forget or filter out information that
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| actions and attitudes of significant
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| | counters ingrained negative beliefs.
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| older people around us. Don't program
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| | Having a journal your write down praise
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| your children to feel less than wonderful
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| | given to you will enable you to remember
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| about themselves. Here are a few great
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| | and acknowledge your real value.
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| tips of how you can give and make a big
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| | • Express gratitude daily. Before you
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| difference:
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| | go to bed every night think of at least
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| • Praise your child: especially for
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| | one thing in your day that you are
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| jobs well done and for their effort put
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| | grateful for. It could simply your
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| in. Be mindful of your words, what you
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| | toothbrush because it gives you clean
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| say and be truthful. Reward effort and
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| | teeth and fresh breath! Start with small
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| completion rather than outcome. For
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| | things and build on it each day.
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| example your child lost at basketball and
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| | • Accept your body. Remind yourself
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| didn't make the finals, say 'you didn't
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| | that there are some things that are
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| make the finals but I'm proud of the
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| | uniquely yours - embrace them such as
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| effort you put in' rather than 'next time
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| | shoe size, skin color and height. Don't
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| you'll work harder and make it'.
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| | compare yourself with others just learn
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| • Be a positive role model & do not
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| | from them. If you are wanting a
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| criticize even in jest. Ensure you
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| | healthier body learn skills to improve
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| develop and display healthy self esteem
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| | your health and take up a physical
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| with your role modeling. You don't want
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| | activity. Acknowledge your body's
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| your child to grow up mirroring adults
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| | strengths eg. I have strong legs, I can
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| with pessimistic or unrealistic
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| | ride a bike really well.
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| expressions about abilities and
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| | • Next negative thoughts and self
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| limitations. For example, don't criticize
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| | critical remarks. Make a conscious
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| find positive ways to address an issue.
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| | effort to be aware of when a negative
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| If you criticize chances are your child
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| | thought enters your mind. Stop it
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| will grow up with a mate or boss who is
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| | immediately and redirect yourself to
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| constantly telling them what they do
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| | healthier thoughts. Negative thoughts
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| wrong because they have grown up
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| | discourage and drag your self esteem down
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| believing it is ok for people to treat
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| | as does every time you make a self
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| them that way and thus they allow it and
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| | critical negative remark such as 'I'm an
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| attract it. Do not use demeaning
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| | idiot' you are reinforcing negative
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| nicknames in jest they are criticism and
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| | patterns in your brain that do not serve
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| they damage self esteem.
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| | you.
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| • Address irrational beliefs. It's
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| | Have a Self Esteem Christmas!
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| important to not only identify unhealthy
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| | Giving and Christmas always go hand in
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| or inaccurate irrational beliefs but to
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| | hand. So how about this Christmas you
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| redirect them. These beliefs may include
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| | give self esteem as your gift this
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| issues around attractiveness, perfection
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| | season! Here are a few suggestions:
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| and abilities. An example might be that
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| | - Send a self esteem Christmas card.
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| your child is doing well at school
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| | Show your appreciation and thoughts by
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| generally yet is struggling with English.
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| | sending words of thanks, gratitude and
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| Your child might say things like 'I'm not
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| | acknowledgement of the person you are
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| a good student' or 'I can't do English'.
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| | sending a Christmas card to in your
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| This is a generalization that is setting
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| | greetings message. For example, thank
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| up the outcome for failure. You would
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| | friends for their friendship and smiling
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| redirect the child with something like
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| | time spent together or if an employee,
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| 'You are doing well at school and you are
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| | for their efforts and loyalty. The extra
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| a good student you just need to spend
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| | effort to acknowledge something personal
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| more time on the English subject and we
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| | and good about another goes a long way
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| can work on developing that'.
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| | towards boosting anothers self esteem.
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| • Give spontaneous affection. Tell
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| | - Purchase self esteem presents. Think
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| your child you are proud of him or her.
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| | about your message and what kind of gift
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| Hug your child. Leave a note on their
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| | would go with it that would convey your
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| pillow 'I think you're terrific' or 'you
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| | words. Here are some examples -
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| make a difference'. A parent's love can
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| | motivational books (to uplift and
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| support and boost a child's self esteem.
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| | encourage) or a board games (great for
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| Be mindful not to overdo it - kids are
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| | sharing fun, smiles and memorable quality
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| good knowing when it's not honest.
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| | time together).
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| • Don't argue in front of your
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| | So now you know why you want to foster
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| children. Exposing your child to
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| | healthy self esteem in yourself and in
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| repeated arguing and fighting may cause
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| | your children and some tips to get you
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| withdrawal and depression. Low self
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| | started. There is no better time to
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| esteem will result from a child feeling
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| | start than at Christmas, the time for
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| unsafe or being abused at home. Respect
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| | giving and the time to give the life
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| your child by creating a safe, nurturing
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| | enhancing gift of self esteem!
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